If people always say "be yourself", then what the f*** is the point of this?
Through my circle of friends and single moms I meet through this blog, I often hear cries of horror about the thought of single mom dating. What man in his right mind would date someone with so much baggage? Whether the single part was by way of divorce, breakup, death or choice, it was a big deal, and that changed you. I have lunches to make and doctor appointments to schedule. Busy single moms have fewer lonely nights to fill, fewer dinners eaten alone.
Getting laid always comes with an expense, even if you’re not banging a hooker. If you want to get down her pants, you’re going to have to buy her some drinks.
But that’s just for a one-night stand, which is pointless.
I can check that off my life to-do list and look for a man for love or companionship or sex – or all three. This kindness bleeds into your other relationships. Being a single mom means that you have been through at least three life-altering experiences.
So many women can recount numerous relationships during which they found out that their guy was not faithful.
Honestly it is a terrible place for the vast majority of 21 year old guys like you to meet attractive women. Does that paint a clearer pic of what this place is like?
I recently joined Match and Tinder, but for some reason I get no messages. If I'm just going to keep wasting money then it's pretty much worthless.
You survived that, and not only are you better for it – you’re sexier for it. Age and childbearing has allowed you to enjoy your body for all it has to offer. When I met my husband in my mid-twenties, I was still struggling to make my way professionally. When we do have time for boyfriends, we make the very most of it. There is less temptation to piddle away hours waiting on losers to commit just because you’re lonely (you will end up selling your engagement ring anyway with those guys).
Confidence, a full heart, and life experience all equals being a richer, fuller person. My longest friendships were still forming, and I was still figuring out what was most important to me. Women with kids have a whole lot of responsibilities. Time is precious, and efficient moms know that the best way to spend time with a man is truly enjoying a really, really great one.